In my fantasies, my perfect sexual situation that I picture, I find myself longing so much to be a slave, a servant, a pet. I know that this in itself isn't odd, I have my own fantasies just like everyone else.
I also have taken a keen interest in pony play. (For those who don't know, Here's a good site.)
Pony play really 'perks my ears up', but I feel...strange?..for having such a fantasy. Apparently I'm not alone in finding this erotic and a definite turn on...there's other's who actively take part...But I still feel so secluded.
I long to be controlled, one way or the other. Don't get me wrong, I'm very content now. My hubby is great, the sex is great...but I feel guilty sometimes for wanting more.
So. I want to know if any of you have been in a situation where you really longed for something sexually but your mate wasn't too keen on the idea. How did you deal with it? Did your mate finally open up to your request? What was the result?
Again, just curious random thinking...
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Ha! Where do I begin.....? LOL. Well, for starters I am realizing that I LOVE oil. So THEN - we started talking about getting another couple in on it...then it moved to us all having a threesomes! So THEN he said and I said - we would each like to try another guy/girl for us!! Geezeeee the list is endless! So now...I have turned into this sorta kinda "Bi Curious" oil loving girl?
Now THAT is freaky !! hahaha!
Bi Curious, eh? Maybe I should come visit and we could learn the ropes together! Lol
Well, I know I love being sub, but Hubby isn't comfy being dom. I'm slightly stuck here. I have a -long- list of things I'd love to try...but I don't know how to get him intersted in it.
ff,
I have the same "issue" in my relationship: he's somewhat open but not very enthusiastic about the things I'd love to try. he would do it just because I want it, which is not the point.
you can't aamake a guy like something if he has no inclination towards it. IMO, there are just two ways to go about it:
1. slowly and patiently show him what you want and hope he'll like it. (the hard way)
2. open the relationship to allow you to fulfill your fantasies. (the hard and risky way)
Coquette In Bed
(using my other account for now)
Sounds like a great idea FF. ;-)
I like being told I am a bad girl, and getting a good spanking and all that - but I am definitely not into "pain." I like a lot of different things, I am finding out.
Sometimes guys (so I have read) are not comfortable with being Dom because of the "being aggressive" factor. Maybe, you could send him a few links and say "hunny, this looks kind of hot..."
I think (for me) it is very hard talking about my wants and desires because I am so use to being the one that makes others happy. V and I have been together for 4 years now - and I STILL find it hard to tell him "yeah...that feels good" and all that! Seems the older I have gotten - the more shy I have gotten too!
RYN- to your note...Give me about 20 min and I will fix that picture! And can you email me and I can send a few pictures along?
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